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January 3, 2024
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Embracing the Journey: Cultivating Self-Kindness and Forming Habits Not Resolutions

Alright, let’s chat about New Year’s resolutions. In a world where we’re constantly juggling too much, overwhelmed, and bombarded with stimuli, the idea of adding another task to your ever-growing to-do list can be a bit much, don’t you think? If this resonates with you, we encourage you to consider an alternative perspective: a new year doesn’t have to usher in a ‘new you.’

What if we ditched the strict resolutions and just let ourselves grow naturally? Real change often happens when we’re kind to ourselves, accepting where we are in our journey. It’s about progress, not perfection, and being comfortable with who we are as we work on becoming even better.

As we start 2024, consider a resolution that’s more about investing in the potential that’s already within you. Think about your unique strengths, your compassion, and the benefits of making mental wellness more of a priority in whatever way suits you. Out of embracing and accepting yourself, you might be surprised at the achievements that start unfolding.

Now, ditching New Year’s resolutions doesn’t have to mean ditching change altogether. According to research and popular belief, forming a habit typically takes about 21 to 66 days. However, this timeframe is not a rigid rule, and individual experiences may differ.

Simple habits may take less time, while more intricate ones could demand additional repetition and dedication. Understanding the pressure associated with change, it’s important to recognize that the timeline for solidifying a habit varies among individuals.

The key? Sticking to those consistent and repetitive actions that essentially rewire your brain. And, yeah, setbacks are part of the deal. Embrace them, learn from them, and notice your resiliency to the challenges that arise.

Turning behaviors into habits can be a game-changer, so here’s a laid-back set of steps to help you make it happen:

  1. Start Small, Like Really Small: Don’t go all-in from the get-go. Begin with tiny, manageable changes. Want to exercise more? What are two small ways you can fit more movement in your day?
  2. Be Consistent, Not Perfect: Consistency beats perfection any day. Stick to your new behavior even on the days you’d rather not. Consciously making the effort will help form a habit.
  3. Link it Up – Cue Time: Attach your new behavior to an existing habit or a specific time of day. Brushing your teeth? Do a quick stretch right after. Creating these cues helps your brain catch on.
  4. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate those small victories. Finished a week of your new habit? Treat yourself to something small. Positive reinforcement is your buddy.
  5. Track Your Progress: Keep tabs on your journey. Whether it’s a journal, an app, or a good old checklist, tracking your progress boosts motivation and shows how far you’ve come.
  6. Be Patient: Habits take time to stick. Be patient with yourself. If you miss a day or two, no biggie. Get back on the horse and keep going.
  7. Mix Fun In There: Inject some fun into your new habit. If it feels like a chore, you’re less likely to stick with it. Crank up the tunes, involve a friend, or do it in a way that makes you smile.
  8. Find an Accountability Buddy: Share your goals with a friend or family member. Having someone to cheer you on and update on your progress can make all the difference.
  9. Visual Reminders: Post sticky notes, set reminders on your phone, or create a vision board. Surround yourself with visual cues to keep your goal front and center.
  10. Adapt and Adjust: Life happens, and things change. Be ready to adapt your habit to fit your evolving circumstances. Flexibility is key to long-term success.

Remember, turning behaviors into habits is about progress, not perfection. Keep it relaxed, stay consistent, and watch those habits become second nature!

 

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